Are you coping with depression and anxiety?
Would you like to get some truly effective and easy – to –use self-help for depression?
Would you like to have a method that really works for you every time?
NOTE: Hello, everyone. This is a long post. I’m sharing with you much about my early history of major depression and severe anxiety. I hope to show you that it is quite possible to get through these difficult things. I had to do it the hard way before I had BESETFREEFAST. Happily, I will now show you how you don’t have to deal with depression and anxiety the hard way anymore. Read this entire article y so ou’ll get the full picture of how you can be set free fast.
Well, let me tell you something about my history of depression and anxiety and how I finally got through it. Then I’ll tell you more about how you can help yourself with it much quicker and easier than I did. I’m going to be very open and personal in sharing with you about my history of depression and anxiety. I believe it will be helpful to you know that someone else has been through this. And I do mean through it. You can get through it, too.
You can defeat your depression and anxiety, and all of the other distresses that always go along with it. Each time they are triggered, these severe issues create many new emotional and stress problems, don’t they? Finally, it’s really possible to get rid of those awful reactions – – instead of just struggling to cope with them. Coping just doesn’t work well. Believe me I tried everything I could find to deal with depression and anxiety. All the coping skills I could find just left the problems intact to keep being triggered again.
I’ll tell you how you can thoroughly resolve all depression and anxiety symptoms. I know because I’ve helped hundreds of people learn how to do it. I’ve been developing it for over 21 years now. I’ve been using it for myself, too.
Depression can be very overwhelming. I know, because I’ve been there. In fact I was severely depressed throughout my childhood and well into my adult years. I could barely hang on to any hope that anything would ever get better for me. I thought I was worthless and that I didn’t ever deserve anything good in life. I thought I was not good-looking or desirable as a male; and that I would never be adequate or good enough in any way.
Anyone who has been depressed for very long at all has a pretty good idea of what I felt like all those years. You know what it’s like to continually rehearse how helpless, hopeless and awful you are as a person. You know what it’s like when you turn that inward on yourself, where there is no place to hide from it.
I never even dated or learned to dance in high school. I was wallflower. I was painfully shy. I was sure that I would be judged, criticized and rejected by everyone. I could not look anybody in the eye because I knew they would see what a terrible, awful person I was. And I felt very alone and lonely. I was one desperate kid and my depression got worse throughout my early adult years.
My grades in high school were as mediocre as you can get. In my high school graduating class of 71 students I ranked 36th and tied with someone else. You cannot be more average than that. And that’s exactly where I thought I fit in. I know now that my subconscious mind had been programmed to cause me to fulfill that internal belief about myself. Other programming in my subconscious made me depressed, severely anxious, constantly tense… and miserable.
Emotionally, I suffered enormously throughout my childhood and early adulthood years. I could really give you a long litany of how bad it was in so many ways. But I will spare you all those unpleasant details.
You certainly could say I was working hard at coping with depression. And I knew nothing about self-help for depression until many years later. For many years I did not even realize I was depressed. In my family and community people just to talk about such things. I just suffered silently with my depression. I became very angry, bitter, extremely anxious, hostile, judgmental and critical and very unforgiving of other people. But the worst of it was that I was treating myself the same way! And when you do that there’s no place go but down a very dark road. There was no place to hide from myself.
I was the second child and the oldest son of eight children. As the oldest son of farmers in Iowa, I was expected (demanded) to be responsible, a good example for my younger siblings and always to work hard– – no matter what the weather and working conditions were. I heard my father say many times, “You do what you have to do.” And we did.
This all took place in the absence of any recognition or approval for how well I did anything. When I would try to hint in some way to get my father to say he approved of what I had done or that I had done something well are acceptably, he would say something like,” Well, you ought to be able to do it. You’re 12 years old.”
Also, I was never told that I was liked or loved by my parents. (I had to tell myself ” mom and dad love me, but they just don’t know how to show it.”) That was one way that I tried to cope with the severe deficits in my emotional upbringing.
My parents came through the Great Depression. All they knew to do was to work hard, which they had to do with eight children to provide for. There was no time for feelings. They provided for our basic needs, food, clothing and shelter. They made sure that we got to school; but they never showed much interest in what we were doing at. They never saved any of the papers or pictures that we created.
To their credit, they did attend our music performances and plays that we in. But I sure don’t remember ever being complemented about any of it. We did get recognition for our birthdays and that Christmas. And the Easter Bunny came. So, if it wasn’t all bad.
Oerall, it’s amazing that my parents did as well as they did. They pushed themselves very hard to provide for us. They had little time for anything else. They never learned how to respond to our emotional needs. I now realize that they believed that they were not supposed to. Likewise, we were not allowed to express our thoughts and feelings. I do respect and love them for what they did provide for all of us kids. I just wished they could have expressed their love for us – – for me
I was born in a farmhouse in Iowa. We moved to this little town in Iowa when I was eight years old. I was always suffering in the cold Winter weather because I was a skinny little kid and had no fat on me to protect from the cold. And my life was always physically very difficult because I was so small. Well I still am small. (I now weigh 139 pounds ; and I have never been heavier than 150 pounds.) That’s actually better for me now. But it sure didn’t feel like an advantage being so small way back then!
As I mentioned in my BSFF DVD Training Set, I was so seriously depressed and anxious for so long that in my young adult years I made three quite intentional and purposeful suicide attempts. I would plan them out to the last detail. I would think about them for months, and then finally go and start carrying out my plan to kill myself. I thought the world would be better off without me in it. I couldn’t stand the pain anymore. Of course I was very miserable in between those times, too.
Each of those three times I got up to the last moment to “finish myself off” and then backed away from it. I mean, I got right to the very edge of it each time. It was scary! I’m still not sure why I didn’t complete my plans. I guess I just got too scared. Or maybe I had not yet totally given up hope.
I won’t tell you any of the gory details of how I was planning to do it. But I had three very creative plans; and being a driven perfectionist, I had excellent plans. Each of them would work very well for anyone who is as determined as I was!
It wasn’t until I was in graduate school that I finally gave up on the idea of killing myself. I said to myself, “Larry, you have run enough experiments on yourself to know that you’re not really going to kill yourself. You might as well give up on that idea and get those ideas out of your head.” But, will took me many more years before I could completely eliminate those images and the idea out of my head. It wasn’t until I learned BESETFREEFAST that I eliminated the posttraumatic stress (PTSD) from those old traumatic experiences. The suicidal radiation had been long gone, but the PTSD lingered.
I’m sure some of you dear readers know something about this, too. I’m really sorry you had to go through that. Or maybe you’re still struggling with some level of depression or anxiety. If you are, I can tell you that there is real hope for eliminating that awful stuff now.
But maybe you had those problems in the past and have found some way to cope with them well enough that they don’t seem to be plaguing you anymore. Well, I want to alert you to the very likely fact that there is probably residual, unresolved stress and trauma from those previous experiences. And this “unfinished emotional business” is very likely still negatively impacting your life in many ways that you would not consciously recognize.
This old unfinished business it is very likely to be negatively affecting your self-image, the self-confidence, your ability to relate to people in ways that meet your needs best and fully, is affecting the way you view life and the world around you and very likely holding you back from being able to experience rich and deep relationships that all of us need and long for. We rarely are aware that these things are going on inside of us .
Well, Id to get rid of my depression mostly the hard way. I still made it through it all. I didn’t do it all by myself, but I made it. You don’t have to do it all by yourself, either. Fortunately, it doesn’t have to be hard for you to eliminate your depression, anxiety and all that painful stuff that goes with it. My BE SET FREE FAST program can help you enormously.
I’m so blessed that I have helped lots of people with their depression and anxiety issues in the 45 years that I’ve been in my profession. And now I’m thankful that I learned a lot from those awful experiences . That has been very helpful to me as a clinical psychologist. It helped me to know what people experience in their mental/emotional pain. I know about emotional suffering. I know about severe anxiety. I know a lot about the long-term effects of these problems.
And I know how absolutely desperate a person can get from being depressed and anxious. I know a lot more than I can possibly tell you about here. Eliminating the terrible effects of all these distressing experiences in my life have helped me to move on from being extremely bitter to becoming compassionate; and it has motivated me all these years to help other people through those painful emotions and insecurities. There’s not much of it I would ever care to repeat, but it has been very valuable for me as a person and as a counselor.
You may wonder why I’m comfortable sharing this with you so readily. Well I eventually got a whole lot healthier psychologically. And my misery ultimately led me to becoming a clinical psychologist. Because I’m a very open person about myself. I have learned that sharing my experiences is courage to my clients. This helps them to know that I really do understand what they’re experiencing. I can also reassure them that there is hope for getting through it. That’s what I want to do for you, too.
You see, I was fascinated with a psychology in high school. From then on I thought it would like to be a psychologist. But the school counselor, who taught the class, said that I would have to have at least a Master’s Degree in psychology in order to succeed in that field. Well, I was convinced that I was too dumb to even go to college, let alone get a graduate degree!
Was I dumb? Not really, but way back then I sure believed that I was not very smart at all. When I graduated from high school I did not know that I was going to college that fall. I thought I would continue working with my father as a plumber and fixing pumps and windmills on the surrounding farms in the county. That would be my life work. It’s where I fit in. I’d never really considered any other possibility for myself.
However, my father apparently realized that such hard physical labor was too difficult for me for a career. So I found myself in a small college in Northeastern Iowa that September of 1952.Well I floundered around there for two years; and I was getting mediocre grades overall. I took three quarters of the required mathematics classes. This was a nine-month emotional horror for me. It was awful! And, I suffered horribly in those classes because I could not do math at all – – never could before either.
The very nice old math professor would have six students go up to the chalkboard to work the same problem. I quickly learned to dread that because I never could finish the problems. So I was always mortified, shamed and humiliated repeatedly for that entire school year. This kind professor recognized my problem and had me over to his house to tutor me for free. It did not help. I was a lost cause in mathematics
Because of his kindness, this math professor gave me the grades of D for each of those three quarters. But I did not earn any of those Ds. I earned Fs. He was just a nice person and gracious to me about the grades. So I didn’t have to take any of those classes over again! What a relief!
Then in an Organic Chemistry class in my second year, I also had a terrible time. We had to balance equations, which I could not do, and the language of chemistry was tough for me – – I think because of my dyslexia. So, about half-way through the course I just quit going to that class. I went and played tennis for the rest of that term. That was my way to relieve my stress to some degree – – a way to cope with it.
But I felt very guilty and fearful about my parent’ s reaction when they learned about the grade I would get. After all, I was sure that it confirmed that I was really a failure. And my stress kept coming back. No one pursued me to help me like a nice old math professor did. Guess what? My grade in that class was an F. I flunked it.
What these professors didn’t know; and I certainly did not know until over 30 years later, that I have Dyslexia. I also did not know ‘ till much later that I also had ADD. No wonder I cannot do math or read well! I have such a problem with reading! I reverse numbers and letters a lot. I didn’t know why I was having such problems with studying and retention. I was just certain that I was “dumb” It really was a horrible time for me.
So, after two years of academic mediocrity I left college and joined the Army. I thought, “I’ll give myself time to grow up and figure out what I want to do with my life.” I needed time to do that. The Army wasn’t much better for me. I was a machinist in the Army. That was okay; but what I really wanted to do was to be trained in a foreign language and become an interpreter. So much for that idea! I flunked the language aptitude test because of my reading difficulty
I like to read and learn but reading is still a big problem for me. I’m a very slow reader and I cannot type very well because I reverse letters a lot. I spend a lot of time editing my typing errors. It takes be a long time to respond to e-mails and to write articles that I want to share, including this one.
But, I did start studying psychology. While I was in the Army; and continued to be fascinated with it. So I decided to go back to college and major in psychology. I didn’t expect it to be easy, but I knew that’s what I wanted to do. I knew there had to be something better for me.
I was very determined to do as well as I could in college. I was desperate, perfectionistic , I had high expectations of myself and I was terrified that I might fail in life. So I put a lot of pressure on myself and I worked very hard. Then I was amazed when I got all A’s and B’s in the first semester back in school. I never could have imagined that I could do that. But I never got any lower grades after that.
My dyslexia made reading and statistics classes very difficult; and my ADD made me pretty distractible and fidgety. But I worked hard and long and got all the way through. But I paid a terrible price in those last seven years of college! I was really traumatized by the time I I got my Doctor’s Degree in 1964. I’m sure I would’ve been diagnosed as having PTSD (Posttraumatic Stress Disorder). For several years after that, when I would go back on a college campus I would literally physically tremble.
Finally, after much counseling and using a lot of less than helpful self-help techniques, I somehow worked my way through it. How I wish I would’ve had BSFF back then. As a matter of fact, it would have been wonderful if I had it when I was four years old!
So how can I help you with these issues in your life? Or, how can I help you learn to help others with them?
Here’s how I can help you. I can encourage you to go to my website www.besetfreefast.com and learn a lot more about what’s available to help you to learn how you can really help yourself. Also, do a search for my name on the Internet at YouTube.com to see some of my videos. Those will help you understand the step-by-step process of actually treating yourself for depression, anxiety, and any other kind of psychological issue. That will give you the beginning of this opportunity to try it out on some distresses that you have in your life. But to really use BSFF for severe depression and anxiety, you will need more help than just that.
Therefore, to really develop your understanding and skill with BSFF in depth, get my BSFF book and my BSFF DVD Training Set from my online store. I have priced them very inexpensively to make it easier for more people to get them. Study them and start to apply them. You will quickly see that you can eliminate emotional distresses and negative beliefs very gently, simply, rapidly and efficiently. BSFF it’s easy to understand and quite easy to use (right on the spot in your daily life)(
My BSFF book and DVD Training Set integrate well with each other. Now they are in well over 55 countries. (I lost track of how many a long time ago.) BSFF is a fantastic adjunct to any kind of traditional psychotherapy or counseling. It accomplishes things we never could do with those traditional methods. BSFF is also much simpler and easier to use and works at deeper levels than the other energy psychology techniques. BSFF really does set you totally free. It also has built-in protections for that new freedom.
With BSFF you can do so much for yourself. And if you get to a point where you might need some assistance, my colleagues and I are available for phone, Skype and office consultations. These consultations are a very great value because you can accomplish so much in such a short time. BSFF clears up problems that took months and years with other techniques. I know. I use them for decades before I learned about energy psychology.
However, you will be amazed at how much you can do on your own by following the step-by-step procedures in his book and DVD set. You may well not need any further assistance at all. How I wish I would’ve had this help when I was young. And you can have it for yourself, now! In fact, you will be the one helping yourself to be set free.
I also urge you to sign up for my e-mail list and join in on my blog to learn more about how you can help yourself and others with BSFF. Ask your questions, share your experiences and any concerns you may have related to depression, anxiety, phobias and any other mental/emotional issues that you’d like to know more about or what to do about.
Develop your skill in using BSFF by working on yourself for a while before you try to use it with anyone else. Then if you want to help others start by choosing someone that you feel safe with. Ask them to let you try something out with them. Then just start off slowly on relatively simple problems. Take your time with this. Just go step-by-step that BSFF do what it does well.
Then, please tell others about BSFF. They will appreciate you for doing that when they quickly discover what they can do for themselves, too. Tell your doctors, your friends, your colleagues and anyone else that is any kind of helping profession.
I hope you will learn and use BE SET FREE FAST for yourself, because from the deepest part of my heart it is my prayer that you will be set free, too. And as you are setting yourself free, I say to you…
” IT SERVES YOU RIGHT!”
Warmly,
Larry
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